Top 10 Mental Health Apps Of 2018 Part 2 (Best For Married Individuals With Issues)


We all have concerns when it comes to our married life, and it’s even more complicated when we have mental health issues. It is the reason why we need to reach out for assistance, and since we are in the “gadget age,” there are unconventional but useful ways to get help.


“I see mental health apps being very useful for people who cannot get to sessions as often as they would like, but I do not view them as a substitute for therapy,” Tanisha Ranger, PsyD


This blog is part 2 of the article Top 10 Mental Health Apps Of 2018 which was featured in this post. The last five apps mentioned here can not only help your relationships; it can also shed light on your mental health. Use it to make you a better person for your spouse, while coping with your problems and lessening disagreements.


SuperBetter (iOS, Android)


SuperBetter is a virtual game that motivates you to be more resilient, and have a positive outlook, especially if you are currently dealing with obstacles and problems in life. Players feel that they have better moods and are more confident in whatever they are doing.


I downloaded this app for myself. To register, you can create your account or connect it with your Facebook. It has lots of choices about which issue you want help with and more. If you’re going to overcome a challenge in your life, just choose from anxiety, depression, eating healthier, losing weight, lowering stress, and so on. I decided on losing weight because it’s been a struggle for me. But the good thing about this is that I lost 4.5 kilos already through Intermittent Fasting, and I’m on my 8-week mark. I need a bit of push, and SuperBetter is a great help in that aspect.


Anyway, with SuperBetter, you have things to do on a daily basis and when you’ve done it, just click I DID THIS. The app will prompt you for your achievements.


7Cups (iOS, Android)


7cups is an app that provides paid online therapy and free emotional support service whenever you feel sad, depressed, stressed or anxious. They have thousands of trained listeners and therapists ready to talk to you any time of the day. 


“Social media can be a good adjunct to treatment, but not necessarily a replacement. If online support and resources are all that some people can manage, then I think it’s important we support them in that.” Dr. Stephanie Smith, a clinical psychologist


If you check the reviews section using the iOS settings, Kurapika111 says that 7cups is for people who want to be heard but cannot speak their mind because they don’t want to be misinterpreted. Maxherondale says that the app is impressive since there are “listeners” who will listen to their rants. FabAt40plus calls it her mobile shrink. I mean, there are so many positive words to say about 7cups. 


Anxiety Relief Hypnosis (iOS, Android)


Anxiety Relief Hypnosis claims to improve relaxation and decrease anxiety within 1-3 weeks of using it. It works using hypnosis which reduces anxiety and increases positive behavior and stress dealing. I haven’t tried it yet, but it’s next on my list of apps to use.


Happify (iOS, Android)


Happify helps you deal with negative thoughts and stresses. It also exercises your positive outlook on life. The app can assist you when you feel stressful, anxious and lonely. That’s why it’s called Happify. It can make you happy with its games and other activities. At least, when you’re feeling down and out, you can always open Happify to lift up your mood. 


“The most helpful definition of being positive is having hope and confidence in one’s ability to handle what’s tough, along with remembering that nothing is all negative all the time,” – Jo Eckler, PsyD


Talkspace (iOS, Android)


Talkspace is an app that provides counseling and therapy to help you deal with stress, anxiety, depression, relationship issues and chronic illnesses. It is a very convenient app which centers on anonymity and confidentiality so you can talk to them abot your deepest problems. Their licensed therapists will be open for all your mental health problems.


Top 10 Mental Health Apps Of 2018 Part 1 (Best For Married Individuals With Issues)

Mental health is crucial and needs utmost care. Physical illnesses have excellent chances of getting cured, but mental illnesses are complicated. You can’t spot it immediately, and it can go on for long periods without treatment. And that’s a big problem. As explained by Lillian Harris LCPC-C “So much of mental health work is about giving people a space to be witnessed and held while sharing the good, the bad, and the ugly of human life.”

Statistics show that around 48.3 million American adults are suffering from mental health conditions at the moment. 9.8 million of them have severe disorders that make their daily living constricted. It’s not an ideal life, and the stigma attached to it is downright unfair.


A healthier mental health condition is maintained by doing daily physical routines, eating nutrient-dense foods, and having a positive outlook on life. They are proven to reduce symptoms of anxiety, depression, and stress, and help increase happiness in your life. Whether you’re in a relationship or single by choice, you have to pay attention to your mental health. 


There are also apps that can help improve your mental health. These apps can assist you through meditation, hypnosis, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and mental health support. “CBT is a relatively brief, skills-focused treatment that has been shown to be effective for a wide variety of mental health issues, including anxiety, depression, anger, social skills deficits, and relational problems.” Shelby Harris, PsyD, CBSM said.


Here are the ten most popular mental health apps of 2018 which help improve your well-being and maintain sound mental health. If your mind is in tiptop condition, your relationship with a loved one is on a stronger foundation.


Calm (iOS, Android)


Awarded by Apple as its “App of the Year” in 2017, Calm was designed to help reduce anxiety, improve your sleeping pattern and make you feel good about yourself. They provide meditation exercises, breathing techniques, sleep and relaxation habits. 


The result of this app is a more joyful and peaceful outlook on life. It also helps you de-stress with serene music and audio that relaxes and clears your mind. Use the app together with your loved one, and you’ll both benefit from its advantages.


Headspace (iOS, Android)


Headspace helps you become a happier individual through self-awareness and mindful meditation. The app is designed to alleviate negative feelings by its helpful tools. It also decreases stress and improves your focus. Some couples who have tried the app revealed that it increased their self-control and decreased their bad temper. 


Moodnotes (iOS)


Moodnotes acts like a journal or a diary where you can record your daily thoughts and moods. It captures what you feel and improves the way you think or perceive things employing CBT and positive psychology. The app tracks your daily mood and makes you aware of its triggers, helping you avoid such lousy behaviors. You’ll be able to cope by yourself or with your spouse (bring you closer together), and that’s the whole idea of this app.


Moodpath (iOS, Android)


Moodpath is like a friend that helps you cope with any issues or problems you’re currently facing. It asks you questions every day and uses the data it gathers to assess yourself. The app checks if you are showing any symptoms of depression which is truly helpful. Couples can comfort each other after using Moodpath since there are tips to address the mental health issue. 


Pacifica (iOS, Android)


Pacifica is an app that assists you in dealing with your anxiety and stress. It helps you get through your “episode” with the help of a very supportive community with positive people. The app also helps you get rid of negative thoughts, behaviors, and emotions using CBT, meditation, mood tracking and relaxation. Many couples heal together by using Pacifica because they are each other’s “checklist.” The app is valuable in all aspects.


“The apps also allow for privacy and confidentiality and can be a safe space for individuals who may be too ashamed to admit their mental health issues in person or who may feel that they will be negatively labeled or stigmatized by others.” Sal Raichbach, PsyD LCSW


The second part of this topic will be released soon. It will be a continuation of this post and the completion of the Top 10 Mental Health Apps Of 2018 blog. To close, this is to hope that the first five apps mentioned above can help with our mental health issues as well as your relationships.

Life-Affirming Moments – I Learned It All From My Therapist


I used to be a very negative person. I’m not going to deny it. My life was a mess starting with what happened to me when I was young. It was horrible and in a way, my thoughts and actions were understandable. It’s just that no one was there for me and I didn’t know how to cope at that time. I was raped at age ten by my uncle, and it was many years after until my parents found out about it.


When they caught my uncle doing his evilness on me, my parents’ marriage also started to fall apart. My uncle was mom’s half-brother, and dad blamed her for not seeing it earlier. It was unfair of my dad to do that, I realize it now. But it’s too late for them. Luckily, it wasn’t too late for me.


“Sexual assault is a serious and devastating violent criminal behavior. It often leaves a traumatic scar on the victim that no amount of time heals or lets the victim forget.” – John M. Grohol, Psy.D.


My mom introduced me to my therapist, and it changed my life. From a lost and empty soul, I became the “me” that I want. I will never forget what happened to me and how my uncle corrupted my youth, but it has made me the strong and resilient person that I am now. It is me choosing to let go of the past and thinking of the beautiful things that life has in store for me.


Facing My Greatest Fear Liberated Me.


What is my greatest fear? Who is the person behind my greatest terror in life? Yes, it was my uncle, and I faced him with strength. I told the judge that he started his “games” with me when I was young until I reached thirteen. It feels so good to conquer my greatest fear. Instead of cringing, I held my chin up high. My therapist helped me through that. Who’s in a prison cell now? Well, it’s not me. 


“An individual’s world gets smaller each time they give into a fear,” Counselor Monte Drenner


Meeting A New And True Friend With An Instant Connection Is Indescribable.


News of me as a “rape victim” was all over the city. They may have covered up my face with a blurry reception and changed my name to “Ann,” but still some people knew that it was me. I lost all my so-called friends, and at first, I was utterly devastated. My therapist said that these people are not worth my time, and soon I will meet someone who is a dear and faithful friend. 


Not long after that, I bumped into my best friend in a coffee shop as we both love Caramel Frappuccino. We realized that we had so much in common, and it’s as if we’re sisters from another life. The feeling was indescribable. I may have lost ten friends, but I gained one whose relationship means something. She knows what happened to me and you know what she did upon learning of it? She prayed with me, and stayed with me the whole day, offering her support.


Realizing The World Is Good To Me Was A Relief.


I was raped, and most victims of molestation and sexual abuse end up being a druggie, a $10-cheap whore, or a criminal. Do I want to become these people? At first, I thought, that was my future. But then my therapist snapped me back to reality. She made me realize that I have a beautiful voice and that I can sing. My therapist reminded me that I have to go back to school and finish my law degree. If I do that, then I’d be able to help those who were once like me – raped, lost, and broken. 


“Any form of sexual abuse will have emotional, psychological, and physical effects on the victim. Although sexual abuse affects everyone differently, these effects are almost always a challenge to deal with.” – Jenna Jarrold, MS, LAC, NCC


It was a big realization for me. If there are people in this world like my therapist who sees the good things in life, then maybe it’s worth a shot. I want to be one of those people. My depression must not pull me down. 


I cannot change what happened to me. It’s not even possible to think of an alternate past because this person that I am now was brought about by my shameful history. I am the stronger person now, unlike before. Affirming life moments make everything worth living.

Ask A Psychiatrist: Are You Addicted to Unhappiness?


My friend, Lilly, is a weird gal. I think she is suffering from some mental health disorder. She’s always wearing black, gray, or white, and loves to watch depressing movies. Lilly can’t stay in a relationship long enough, and her last boyfriend gave up on her, telling me that she’s a freak. Why is she a freak? Lilly is always sad and unhappy – it’s like her national anthem in life.


I Told My Shrink About Her Way Of Life.


When I told my psychiatrist about her, he said that there are indeed people who thrive on being unhappy. They are addicted to unhappiness. I know it sounds crazy, but he said that to me. I spoke about it with my therapist for I think three or four sessions. That’s how affected I was of my friend’s way of living. I understand “Happy people make healthier choices,” Scott Glassman, PsyD. once said. But hers is different in a lot of ways.


Why Are You Addicted To Unhappiness?


My therapist said that there are some reasons as to why Lilly was acting that way:


  1. It could be that Lilly has very low self-esteem. When she feels happy in life, she is conflicted about it. She will then look for unhappiness because her low self-worth bombards her with the idea that she doesn’t deserve a happy life. My psychiatrist also asked me if I knew Lilly’s parents. Come to think of it – I didn’t. She didn’t even mention much of them to me, and I didn’t push the talk. In Dr. Nikki Martinez, Psy.D. blog, she says, “If you are struggling with low self-esteem, it is encouraged that you seek some type of help and support to work through this issue, and to help you be the best version of yourself that you can be.”


2. It could be that Lilly was brought up by overly strict parents who lined up unrealistic expectations. Of course, to get their love, Lilly would strive to accomplish them. But it’s more than difficult to achieve, and so Lilly would feel deprived of her parents’ love due to her failure in grasping their expectations. Anybody would be unhappy because of that kind of life.


3. The possibility of lifelong trauma can make Lilly an unhappy person. I don’t think that Lilly has experienced a string of traumatic events. She didn’t mention anything of that sort to me, but I know that she lost her Grandma when she was a teenager, and they were very close. Lilly said that she loved her Grandma very much and that losing her was like missing a part of herself. Could that be her traumatic life event? 


4. Guilt or regret is another way of making a person lead an unhappy life, according to my therapist. She always said that it was her fault that her Grandma died. If only she arrived at her house 5 minutes earlier, she said, she could have saved her. When I looked at the situation, Lilly’s statements were not possible. Her grandmother died an hour before she arrived, and Lilly was still in school. I kept telling her it’s not her fault. She just wouldn’t listen.


5. My friend always says that for every happy moment in her life, there is even more significant unhappiness to unfold soon. That’s her reason why she escapes being too joyous because there is an equivalent misery. When I told my psychiatrist about Lilly’s philosophy, he said that Lilly needs help immediately.


How Can I Help My Friend?


One day, I asked Lilly to join me in an online therapy session. She was hesitant at first, but I manipulated her into thinking that the talk will make her understand more about unhappiness. I’m not proud of misleading her like that, but how else can I help my friend?


It’s been two months since I did that and I learned that Lilly has been communicating with another therapist. I hope she gets her life back on track and that I get to meet the new Lilly soon. She may not feel worth it, but I know that my friend deserves to be happy. “Happy people do things differently. They make their emotional wellbeing a priority and practice daily and weekly habits that help them create joy, happiness and satisfaction in their lives.” Dr. Chantal Gagnon PhD LMHC expressed. 

3 Life Situations Wherein Online Therapy Is Beneficial For You


Have you ever felt lost at a certain point in your life that you don’t know what to do? It happens to many people, even to the best of us. When a particular situation occurs, and you don’t have the exact answer for it, how do you proceed? You have no clue as to how best to conquer it. So, what now?


Do you get the idea? Does that make sense to you? There are times when your mind is not up to the challenge of thinking, and the solution is not forging in your brain. The constant mantra of “What do I have to do” or “I don’t know what to do” is eating you up. It makes you anxious and even depressed. 


Well, if you don’t know what to do and how to act, then experts suggest that you see a counselor through online therapy or traditional counseling


Here are three life situations wherein you’ll feel lost, and yet therapy may be able to clear your mind:


You Realize That Your Marriage Is Going Nowhere.


Did you know that the CDC or the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention released a 2017 report on marriages and divorces? The report states that in 2016, 2,245,404 people got married. In that same year, 827,261 people got divorced. These figures are real data collected from 44 states plus Washington DC.


When marriage is a problem, it will seem that your whole world is falling apart. Of course, it’s understandable. The one person you have committed your life to is drifting away from you, and what can you do? Divorce? NO. A counselor may be able to give you an insight on the issues, and from there, you can decide on where you want and need to go. “Divorce is not something that should never be entered into lightly. It means an end to that relationship and the breakup of a family, which can be greatly traumatizing to the children of that marriage.” Jennifer Baxt, LMFT, LMHC said.


A Friend Or Family Member Dies And You’re Devastated.


You have this aching inside you that won’t go away. A loved one just died, and the loss is unbearable. The feeling is called grief. 


“Everyone grieves differently; there is no right or wrong way and there is no schedule.” Ashley Curiel, PsyD. said. At times, you still want to cry, but the tears won’t come out anymore. You may be doing regular and day to day things, and BOOM, it hits you. Your loved one is dead, and you continuously have panic attacks. You can’t breathe, and you’re hyperventilating at least once a day – it’s a terrible experience.


It is vital that you undergo the stages of grief before you can completely heal from this ordeal. Losing a loved one is like losing a part of yourself, and you’re not expected to bounce back in a snap. A counselor may help you with the grief stages, and in time, you will recover from the pain the death has inflicted on you. 


You’re Getting Married, And Overwhelmed By The Thought.


“Couples’ expectations about what marriage should be like are completely off from the reality of what marriage is actually like” Dr. Chantal Gagnon PhD LMHC explains. Hey, no one is judging you. This feeling is not cold feet. You are giving yourself to another person for the rest of your life (that is if you’re not contemplating the divorce option). It is entirely reasonable to feel overwhelmed especially when the wedding day is near.


It’s ok. Breathe in, and breathe out. The struggle here is real, and it’s not only you feeling this way. Everyone who wants to get married to the love of their life is feeling this way. A counselor may be able to explain this feeling to you, and you’ll learn to process it. 


The situations mentioned above are just three of the most common experiences in life that can freak you out. There are many more moments like this and reasons for such are varied. When it happens, you know that a counselor online, which is easily accessible, can talk you through it. You may also seek assistance from a traditional setting counselor.

Five Important Signs Which Reveal That You Need Couples Counseling

Being in love makes us blind to certain realities of life. When you meet the “one,” your “soul mate,” and the “love of your life,” the two of you are literally on Cloud 9. There will be a period of blissful love until you two decide to get married and start a life together. By then, your vision of “happily ever after” will change as you realize that marriage is not just about romance. It’s about commitment, dedication, and companionship amidst the hurts and the pains experienced along the way.


The Lord God said that whatever he puts together, no man can put asunder. It means that the sanctity of marriage must be preserved no matter what the problem. A couple must always put their love for each other first even if at a specific moment, that same love is lost. 


It is one of the main reasons why people go to Couples Counseling. But how do you know that you need one? Are there signs which can tell you that counseling is your best resort to save your failing marriage? 


Here are some critical signs which reveal that you need couples counseling: 


  1.   When communication between the couple is impaired


Impaired communication between spouses will destroy their marriage. If you are not talking with your spouse, or if you two are talking but mostly yelling and fighting, then a counselor is perhaps required to put a stop to that type of behavior if you want to save your dying relationship. An efficient therapist can facilitate new ways for you to communicate with your spouse without the anger or hurt and fix your communication issues. “Humans are complex and all of us experience emotions like anger and sadness, so it’s very normal that at some point in the relationship, you will disagree with your partner.” Maryann W. Mathai, LPCC, LMHC, LPC, NCC said. And that is okay.


  1.   When you don’t know how to talk to your spouse or if you are afraid of opening up to your spouse


For some couples, there will come a time when talking to each other becomes a problem. It’s either you don’t know how to talk to your spouse because of all the past hurts, or you are afraid to speak to your spouse thinking he or she will get angry with you. With that, it is indeed necessary to ask for the assistance of a marriage counselor. Why? With a marriage counselor present, the issues surrounding as to why you “think” your spouse will get angry when you talk to him or her, or why you “think” you can’t communicate with your husband or wife, will be sorted out peacefully.


  1.   When you have to lie or keep secrets from your spouse


Lying to your spouse for any reason, a small or big lie, and keeping secrets are strong grounds that you need a marriage counselor. You are not supposed to lie to your spouse or keep secrets from him or her unless it’s about a secret birthday party surprise. It’s just not right to keep things from your spouse or to lie to your husband or wife. There is a trust issue there somewhere, and a marriage counselor can help with facilitating the problem of trust. “There are many types of toxic relationships such as a controlling or manipulative, negative, self-centered or narcissistic, dishonest, insecure, abusive, blaming or demanding and competitive, and secretive, and dramatic,” says Catherine Jackson, a licensed clinical psychologist and neurotherapist.


  1.   When you feel that changing your spouse’s personality will fix everything


Marriage is and has always been a 2-way street. If you think that your spouse needs fixing, well, don’t you also need an overhaul? It’s not about who is always right and wrong. Marriage is about blending well together amidst your differences. Now, if you feel that fixing your spouse will repair your damaged relationship, then you’re wrong. Thinking this way merits the inevitable – you need support from a marriage expert. 


  1.   When you’re thinking of having an affair just to spite your spouse

Stop right there. If you feel that having an affair can make you feel better because it’s like a revenge thing for your spouse, then just stop. You need counseling now that you think that having an affair is a right decision. “In the age of instant connection and feedback, this may be a good reminder that less connection with others may be the best type of connection for your romantic relationship.” Sam Louie MA, LMHC suggests.


There are many other reasons as to why you need couples counseling. The point is that if you and your spouse can’t resolve a problem by night time, if you feel hatred towards your spouse, or if you can’t care any less what your spouse is doing, ask for immediate help. Otherwise, you may decide to end the relationship before further mental health damage is done.


What are Therapy Anxieties and How to Overcome Them?


Asking someone to go to therapy will, more often than not, yield an outcome wherein the involved would go on full force defensive mode, immediately denying that there’s something wrong with his or her current disposition. There is a reason a person would vehemently renounce any sort of suggestion that would lead to getting an appointment with a therapist. And that can be referred to as therapy anxieties.


“You’re considering therapy because something doesn’t feel right. You want relief, healing, or increased insight.”  Sarah Rumpf, MA, LPCC said. Well, it’s true. Therapists are quite scary. They will open you up and eat your soul. Why in the world would you still want to go and see one? First, that’s not what therapists do. Second, because something’s wrong and it needs fixing. 


Maybe the real reason fordeclining a session with a therapist is because you are just terrified of exposing parts of yourself that you have concealed from everybody else. Or maybe you don’t want to find out that there’s really something faulty within you. Either way, you feel anxious. You’d rather be swallowed whole by the ground than stepping into a therapist’s office.


Whatever your reason is for not going into therapy, there are effective ways of overcoming them. Answering the question, “Why don’t you want to see a therapist?” here are some therapy anxieties that people have repeatedly uttered.


  1. There is nothing to talk about.


This makes absolute sense. If you figured that there’s nothing wrong with you, going to a therapist would be a waste of resources. But think about it, people don’t know themselves entirely. You have characteristics and attitudes that you are unaware of that other people can see and experience. “Awareness is the beginning of all change.” Karla Helbert, LPC, E-RYT, C-IAYT said.


Therapy is created to explore bits and pieces about your behavior and feelings so that it can correctly pinpoint sensitive issues in your life that needs to be tackled. Besides, there is a vast library of topics to talk about starting with your family, work, friends, hopes,and dreams. Certainly, there is something to talk about in those areas. “Therapy provides long-lasting benefits and support, giving you the tools you need to avoid triggers, re-direct damaging patterns, and overcome whatever challenges you face.” Chris Corbett, PsyD. explained.


2. People might know.


Therapists are sworn to secrecy. Breaking confidentiality has consequences and is included in their code of ethics. However, there is a clause or a subtext citing an exemption to that rule. Disclosure of information can be done if:


  • The client is mentally ill and is at risk of hurting oneself or others
  • The court mandated it for legal purposes


Otherwise, anything that you have disclosed to your therapist is safe and sound. 

3. I might be seen as weak.


You are not weak; however, your mind is. Seeking for help is actually a sign of strength and maturity. Self-awareness, as evidenced by delving further into agonizing feelings and experiencing, is the most important step in finding a way to work out your issues.



4. People might think I’m crazy.


While both deal with how the mind works, there is a difference between a therapist and a psychologist.And both will tell you that seeking help about something that’s been emotionally and mentally bothering you is not an indicator of craziness. When the mind is sick, it will not function the way it should be. Therapy works in a way that it addresses your personal unrest by providing different motivational strategies. 


Getting better requires a great deal of courage and confidence. Separating yourself from these anxieties about therapy is not just beneficial to you but also to the people around you.


Startling Confessions Millennials Reveal during Therapy…Maybe You’re One of Them


One of the greatest predicaments that millennials have to face on a daily basis is the concept balancing what’s real and what’s expected of them.

Millennials have a ton of discussions going inside their heads regarding serving a higher purpose with their existence. And coping with their daily struggles make them question their value and capacity.Growing up, millennials were wired to do follow a straight path – followed their dreams and stick with their plans. If they keep on aiming for what they want, they will end up successful.


These ideations and expectations coming from their parents are, somehow, already distorted by the fact that the world has changed quite a lot since they were in charge. Millennials are aware that this is no longer the case; that their reality is no longer their parent’s realities. And it confuses them to the point of breaking down.


Unsurprisingly, to cope up with these expectations, millennials have found ways to self-care and self-improvement; one of which is therapy.


“Therapy is for people who have enough self-awareness to realize they need a helping hand, and that is something to be admired.” – Chris Corbett, PsyD.


What are some astonishing revelations that millennials have told their therapists?


  1. ‘No’ is not an option.


Parents tend to become overenthusiastic with how their children should run their lives. This type of phenomenon is currently known as helicopter parents. Due to this kind of upbringing and mentality at home, kids have difficulty turning down a suggestion or an idea initiated by their parents. Furthermore, being unable to attain that point of success their optimistic grown-ups have assured, can cause immense disappointment and deplorable loss of self-esteem and self-worth. 


  1. Decision-making is not my strongest suit.


Parents who keep meddling in the affairs of their children may find that one of the drawbacks of this is, as adults, their children would be having difficulties making decisions on their own. Even if they went to one of the Ivy League universities, made it top of their class, and landed their dream jobs, millennials would still have this feeling of uncertainty with the decisions they’re making. This will be reflected in other various ways like considering a career change, taking chances on relationships, moving to a new location, and all those other options that may arise.


  1. Anxiety is a bummer.


More than the numerous factors affecting their lives, millennials also have to battle it out with crippling blows of anxiety constantly. Typically, it gets in the process of becoming a more active and productive member of the society. Being abreast and overexposed to what is currently happening all around the world in every minute of the day is partly responsible for the millennials incapability of shutting their thoughts down.


“Anxiety is often thought of as an emotion, but it’s really more than that, especially when it gets to be problematic.” – Robert Allison, MA, LPC


  1. Earning money is not a walk-in-the-park.


Just because millennials seem to live fancy, it doesn’t mean that they are considering themselves financially secured. Struggles with financial instability coupled with incapacitating debt have caused a huge percentage of millennials to cease areas in their lives like dating and finding the perfect place to stay and be independent. 


Experts have thoroughly addressed these concerns through the following:


Take those baby steps. Turning down your parents or significant other or making that life-changing decision is not easy. Through practice and continual re-assurance of oneself, you would be able to find confidence in taking that step further or politely declining or disagreeing with someone, especially with your superiors. It is a way of asserting your emotions and making your points valid.


Get control. You are the master of yourself. You own your positivity and negativity. Obtaining a better understanding of your negative thoughts will help you advance from your anxieties and gain command and mastery of your thoughts and feelings.


“Awareness is the beginning of all change.” Karla Helbert, LPC, E-RYT, C-IAYT


What To Do About Depression Relapse


Depression is a difficult condition to battle. In fact, it has been regarded as a chronic condition by experts. 


“Depression is different from passing sadness or temporary frustration with life’s issues. There are number of common signs for depression and they tend to be persistent.” Kurt Smith, Psy.D., LMFT, LPCC, AFC


One of the most common mental illnesses, depression has the tendency of recurring. Over the course of their lifetime, people who were diagnosed with depression often experience it again. Based on a study, 80% of people who had two episodes of depression has a high tendency of relapse. This second depressive episode occurs within five years after the first episode. In general, people with depression history would experience 5 to 9 episodes in their lifetime. 


University of Michigan Depression Center believes that depression can definitely be considered as a chronic condition. It means that dealing with depression means providing treatment not only during episodes, but on a daily basis. Experts are still unsure as to why depression recurs, as well as how to predict the relapse. What they are sure of is that there are triggers that can cause the episodes to arise. 

Common Relapse Triggers of Depression


“A stressful change in life patterns can trigger a depressive episode. Such stressful events may include a serious loss, a difficult relationship, trauma, or financial problems.” –Ben Martin, Psy.D.


According to NYU Langone Medical Center clinical assistant professor and psychiatrist Dr. Sue Varma, the trigger that can cause relapse is also the root of the first episode of depression. Some of the probable triggers are:


  • Death in the Family
  • Divorce
  • Job Loss
  • Traumatic Losses
  • Infidelity


There are major positive changes that can initiate depression. One example of this is postpartum depression. 10% to 15% of women and 4% of men develop this kind of condition. 


Another factor associated with depression relapse is family history of psychiatric illness or depression. Other factors correlated to relapse are:


  • Recurring Negative Emotions
  • Social Isolation
  • High Neuroticism
  • Poor Social Support


George Washington University clinical professor of Psychiatry, Dr. Frederick K. Goodwin, believes that physical injury or illness can also cause a relapse. Since the definition of “feeling well” or “not depressed” is being active, most people will find it odd that through an injury, there is depression relapse. But it can happen.


University of Michigan Depression Center reports though that the most common depression relapse risk factor is discontinuing treatment. Successfully treated patients, with depressive episodes through medication and fail to refill their prescriptions or attend therapy, have high chances of relapse.

It is important to remember that recovery takes a while to settle in and patients must know how to handle their grim feelings amidst all the depressive habits. 

Relapse may be severe.


University of Michigan reveals that subsequent depression episodes have the tendency to be worse than the previous ones. Consecutive episodes may be a result of the person’s sense of worth. With that, treatment for these episodes require medication at a higher dosage. 


Prevention is always the key. This is why it is important to treat depression as a chronic disease that requires continuous medication and professional guidance. Going cold turkey can provide major health problems. This also goes the same way with psychotherapy. To get your depression under control better, continuing the treatment is advised and truly necessary. In fact, revisiting a professional at the first sign of returning symptoms is recommended. 


“Depression is not a weakness of character, laziness, or a phase. Tough love, like telling someone to ‘buck up’ or ‘try harder,’ doesn’t work, and worsens the illness.” – Deborah Serani, PsyD.


Treatment for depression is a lifelong commitment and not a one-time-only medication. You have to make an effort for it and follow through with the depression program and treatment plan.